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Then tears slipped down my face as my best friend and a nurse held my legs apart, while another nurse inserted gauze into my vagina to try and stop the bleeding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone always says you\u2019ll remember the first time you have sex, but I\u2019d thought it would be because of how awkward it would be. My first time featured a blood-stained bed, carpet, bathtub and three different hospital rooms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So after my disastrous first time, I want to make sure others don\u2019t have to go through the same thing \u2013 and that starts with this cautionary tale and a call for better sex education for all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was in my late teens when I first had sex with a boy I was dating at the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On that fateful day, he\u2019d booked a hotel room but it never even crossed my mind that I\u2019d lose my virginity. Needless to say, I was completely unprepared for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even before we got to the room, I was nervous to the point of feeling nauseous. He made me feel too anxious and jittery. I didn\u2019t know how to behave or what to even say around him \u2013 I felt awkward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we got down to it, there was no foreplay for me and he didn\u2019t touch me anywhere other than my chest. Looking back, I should\u2019ve seen this could cause issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It felt like a piercing pain when he put it in and I remember thinking that something was wrong, but I didn\u2019t know what. He asked if I was on my period and I said no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the sight of the blood, panic flooded my system \u2013 I felt scared and anxious. It looked completely different to period blood, in the sense that it was more fresh and looked like it was never-ending.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He asked: \u2018Why are you bleeding so much?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn\u2019t know the answer. I felt shaken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There was pain and there was blood, but the blood made the room look like a crime scene. It spilled everywhere in a gushing waterfall, staining through the bedspread and into the mattress, down the sides of the bed frame and onto the carpet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the bleeding started and we stopped having sex, I started using sanitary pads to try to stop the bleeding. When I got through six of them, I decided to call 111 and they asked if the sex was consensual and to describe the events that led up to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They told me to go to the nearest walk-in centre. At this point, I\u2019d nearly fainted once and felt dizzy, like my entire body was experiencing pins and needles. My mouth was so dry. All I could think was that my family would kill me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We went to the local walk-in centre \u2013 where they told me I had to go to A&E, I almost passed out, breaking my phone screen when it slipped out of my hand, as they didn\u2019t have the equipment to find out what was wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the way there, alone, I nearly fainted again in the Uber \u2013 the driver had to pull over and get me a packet of cereal bars and a bottle of water, which helped. While in the waiting room, I\u2019d managed to contact my best friend and by the time I\u2019d been taken into one of the wards for serious injuries, she\u2019d arrived.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I arrived at A&E \u2013 about an hour and a half after the bleeding first started \u2013 I saw two gynaecologists and a revolving door of nurses \u2013 all women. One of the medical staff told me that if the bleeding didn\u2019t stop by the next day, I would have to go into surgery.\u2018You have a tear on both your vaginal walls,\u2019 someone said to me after using a cystoscope to try to figure out what was wrong. They said it could\u2019ve happened because the penetration was too rough or even because I wasn\u2019t ready or turned on. After that, they all settled on using gauze to stop the bleeding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By this point, I\u2019d been bleeding for more than three hours and soaked through more than 10 sanitary pads even when two were used together. I find it oddly hilarious that I hadn\u2019t got a drop of blood on my jeans.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the nurses helped me put on a pair of disposable maternity-style briefs and on the end of the bed, I spotted the red and black silk and lace thong I\u2019d bought specially from Ann Summers. Fat lot of good it\u2019s done me, I thought.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I felt everything from panic and shock to amusement at everything that was unfolding. I ended up telling a nurse that I didn\u2019t want my parents knowing I\u2019d had sex because I wasn\u2019t supposed to be having it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had my mother\u2019s words ringing in my ears that I shouldn\u2019t be having sex because it\u2019s a taboo in our South Asian culture. We\u2019re taught never to do it with anyone because it\u2019s all boys \u2013 or men \u2013 want and once they get it, they leave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u2018They\u2019ll make you all these promises,\u2019 my mum told me in Bangla when I was 15. \u2018They will tell you they love you or will marry you, so you have sex with them. But once you do, they will break every promise and leave.\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I went to sleep that night in the hospital feeling sick and frustrated. I also hadn\u2019t been able to keep any food down and I couldn\u2019t sleep either.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every two to three hours, a nurse would check my blood pressure, do a blood test and take my temperature. I also had a catheter attached, which was extremely uncomfortable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The next day in hospital, I spoke to a gynaecologist and told her I never want to have sex again. She laughed and said this isn\u2019t how sex was supposed to be. \u2018When you\u2019re ready, it\u2019ll be so much better,\u2019 she assured me. I felt wary but nodded anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is important for young women to understand that first time sex is definitely not meant to be inherently painful and not everyone bleeds<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I ended up staying in the hospital for two nights, and the bleeding finally stopped the day after I was admitted\u2014sometime after lunch, after my body had already been through more than it knew how to handle. I remember feeling weak, disoriented, and honestly, a little disconnected from everything around me. It didn\u2019t feel real. One moment I had been trying to convince myself that what I was experiencing was \u201cnormal,\u201d and the next I was lying in a hospital bed, surrounded by quiet urgency, nurses moving in and out, and the kind of silence that makes you realize something wasn\u2019t right from the beginning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That night, they removed the gauze. It\u2019s hard to explain just how painful that moment was\u2014it felt almost as intense as when it had been put in. There was a sharp, lingering discomfort that stayed with me even after it was over, like my body hadn\u2019t yet caught up with everything it had gone through. I felt exposed, physically and emotionally, but I didn\u2019t really know how to process it. I just wanted to go home.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The next day, I was discharged.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But going home wasn\u2019t as simple as it should have been.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because I had told my parents I was staying at a friend\u2019s house, I couldn\u2019t explain where I had actually been or what had happened. I walked into my house carrying something heavy\u2014something I wasn\u2019t ready to talk about. I couldn\u2019t tell them. I couldn\u2019t tell anyone in my family. And so, I stayed quiet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That silence followed me for a long time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It wasn\u2019t just about what had happened physically\u2014it was about everything I didn\u2019t understand, everything I hadn\u2019t been prepared for, and everything I felt like I should have known but didn\u2019t. I kept replaying it in my head, trying to make sense of it, trying to figure out where things had gone wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Later, when I started talking to friends, I realized something important.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wasn\u2019t alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of my friends told me that the first time she had sex, all she felt was wetness everywhere and pain. Another told me that her first time hurt so much that she ended up crying. These weren\u2019t isolated experiences\u2014they were common, shared, and yet rarely talked about openly before they happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That realization was both comforting and frustrating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Comforting, because I understood I wasn\u2019t the only one who had gone through something difficult.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Frustrating, because it made me question why no one had talked about it honestly beforehand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In a lot of ways, that experience became a turning point for me. It forced me to learn things I hadn\u2019t fully understood before\u2014about the importance of foreplay, about arousal, about emotional comfort, and about how essential it is to feel safe and relaxed during intimacy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because without those things, everything changes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Without comfort, your body tenses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Without arousal, your body isn\u2019t ready.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Without trust, your mind starts to race.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And when all of that comes together, the experience can quickly shift from something that should feel natural and enjoyable into something painful and overwhelming.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It made me realize that sex is not just a physical act\u2014it\u2019s deeply connected to how you feel emotionally and mentally. If you\u2019re anxious, nervous, or unsure, your body responds to that. And if you\u2019re not ready, no amount of pretending will change that reality.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Statistics only reinforce this truth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A survey of over 3,000 women revealed that one-third were not ready for their first time having sex. Even more telling, 22% said they wished they had waited. These numbers reflect something important\u2014many young women feel pressure, whether it\u2019s from partners, social expectations, or internal beliefs about what they \u201cshould\u201d be doing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And the consequences of that pressure can be significant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Over 51% of those surveyed said their first time hurt. Half admitted they felt nervous or scared beforehand. That fear, that uncertainty\u2014it matters. It shapes the experience in ways that often go unspoken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And yet, despite how common these feelings are, conversations around them are still limited.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We replace silence with understanding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And in doing so, we help others avoid the same confusion, the same fear, the same feeling of being unprepared.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one should have to learn the hard way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No one should feel like they have to stay silent about something that affects them so deeply.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And no one should feel alone in something so personal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because the truth is\u2014so many people go through similar experiences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They just don\u2019t always talk about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But when they do, when those stories are shared, something powerful happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Understanding grows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Confidence builds.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And the next person who finds themselves in that situation might feel just a little more prepared, a little more aware, and a lot less alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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